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   Incest: Family Profiles and Psychological Implications
 
This paper will be a brief analysis of the research on incest, It will deal with the profiles of the fathers mother and daughter, NOTE* Due to the fact that most studies have found that female victims greatly out-number male victims by about 7-1. I will refer to the victims as ‘she’. (1) Research has yet to determine if the effects are the same for boys.

Incest has been found to be widespread throughout our society, The psychological damage done to the child is viewed by some professionals to be irreparable.  Many victims may never recover from the experience.  Fortunately many do recover.

There have been numerous studies to date that look at the family and attempt to learn why incest occurs.  Blame has been placed on the father in some studies and on the mother in other studies.  Until now however little research has been done on the treatment given to the victims and how effective it is - what types of therapy will benefit her the most. Repeatedly, I have heard and read victims stating that the professionals did not know how to help them.  They were treated for a great variety of psychological disorders and most professionals had difficulty even to discuss the subject. Clearly more research needs to be done and more professionals need to be sensitized to this issue.

DEFINITION

Incest has been defined in many different ways.  It is therefore necessary to provide a definition which seems to be acceptable to the ones who are most affected the victims. Incest is:
…any overtly sexual contact between people who either are closely related or perceive themselves to be closely related (including stepparents. step siblings, half siblings and even liven lovers if they have assumed a parental role. (2)
and
as any sexual touch. by forces trickery, or bribery, between two people where there it an imbalance in age, size, power, or knowledge. (3)
The types of sexual contact described in most literature varies widely from fondling. penetration with a finger or foreign object. mutual masturbation, oral genital, anal-genital or vaginal-genital contact. (4) These acts perpetrated on young children and adolescents cause great psychological disturbances that affect the person throughout the rest of her life.

INCIDENCE
Various sides estimate that up to one out of every four girls and one out of every ten boys in the United States is a victim of sexual abuse before the age of 18.  According to one study 38% of these attacks are incestuous.  That means that one out of every ten girls was abused in her own home or by people she knew and trusted. (5)

The National Center for Child Abuse and Neglect estimates that between 40,000 and 60,000 children are sexually abused by their parents or caretakers each year. (6)

FAMILY PROFILES
In an attempt to discover why incest occurs psychologists and sociologists have researched the family, members and their problems, This has resulted in general personality profiles for each member.  Hopefully this research will shed more light on why incest occurs and make it easier to identify high risk families.

THE FATHER
Contrary to most opinion most of the men who sexually abuse their daughters are not initially seeking a sexual relationship. Usually the father has been emotionally cut off from the mother of the family. He then turns to his young daughter who is more than eager to give and receive some emotional attention from him., It may be his lack of control over his sexual desires that motivate him to approach his daughter in an inappropriate way, Susan Forward states:

Aggressors woo use sex with their young daughters as a vain attempt to satisfy a variety of emotional needs -- needs that that they are not able to understand that they have no way of knowing how to meet appropriately. (7)
Sometimes the incest becomes an exercise of power on the part of the father who may feel a lack of control in other areas of his life.  His daughter is a person who readily obeys his requests at first, and later, his demands.

THE MOTHER
One theory states that the mother of the family is partly responsible for the incest.  Some mothers know about the sexual relationship between her husband and her daughter and this theory states that she may be relieved that she does not have to provide sexual services to her husband. Other mothers participate on an unconscious level, She may ignore the signs that something is wrong with her daughter and she may fear the consequences of asking questions. Both these types are labeled 'The Silent Partner'. Susan Forward states:

Typically, the silent partner is unable to maintain any sort of nurturing, affectionate relationship with either her husband or her daughter  This emotional abandonment of the family often causes the husband and the daughter to seek emotional refuge with each other… What sets the silent partner apart is her tendency to deal with her problems by passing them along to her daughter. (8)
As the mother slowly turns household responsibilities over to her daughter a role reversal occurs.  It becomes very easy then for the mother to abdicate all responsibilities to her daughter including the sexual one.

THE DAUGHTER.
Many people wonder why the daughter participates in this relationship if she dislikes it so much.  People seem to forget that the daughter is not a woman who has the ability to make her own choices and say 'NO'.  She is a young girl (sometimes too young even to talk, who does not understand what is happening. Her father is her guardian. He is her protector. He provides her food, shelter, and clothing.  He is supposed to guide and help her. He is supposed to care for her and love her. She is totally dependent and trusts this adult in her life.  It is the most natural thing for her to obey her father.  It is not until she begins to understand the significance of their 'game' or until she is old enough to realize that it is wrong or until she has been physically hurt that she wants it to stop. But she is powerless. Her father's threats, her mother's distance and her own fears force her to continue and to remain silent.

As a result of her inability to stop the incest and her continued participation, the victim develops many coping strategies and psychological disturbances.

According to one Montreal study the list of long term effects is long and debilitating  

Suicidal gestures and attempt, Repetitive cycle of abuse
Chronic psychosis Self mutilation
Induced obesity/anorexia Hysterical seizures
Chronically self punitive life-style Aggressive . personality disorder chronic delinquency
Prostitution or sexually dominated or exploited
lifestyle
Withdrawing coldness. frigidity or lack of trust in emotional intimate sexual relationships
Long-term personality problems. including guilt
anxiety. fears, depression and permanent
impairment of self-image
Drug and alcohol abuse leading to chronic addiction and health impairment
Another report from from the United States cites the same problems. (10)

Many of the women that I have known who are victims display all or some of these problems. Most of the women have had severe problems relating to both of their parents and have found it difficult to trust people, especially men.  Some of the women had tried many times to kill  themselves some have been hospitalized numerous times for psychological problems and one has been institutionalized for about 15 years.

Of these women there are only two who have become survivors.  A "Survivor" is a person who no longer allows the incest and past to control her life but has been able to deal with the inner conflicts that have resulted from the incest and has begun to live in a way where she is control and has learned to trust someone. It seems that unless she is able to establish a trusting relationship with another person she is doomed to repeat the cycle of abuse.

Much needs to be done to assist victims of incest in, their recovery.  More information is required to better understand how to help.  It would be advisable to have special programs where victims can go to meet others who have shared the tame experiences.  Self-help programs need to be established.  It is only by listening to the victims that any of us will learn to understand the tremendous toll incest sakes on the lives of these women.  It is only by listening that we will learn how to help.


BIBLIOGRAPHY

1. Betrayal of Innocence Susan Forward M.S.W. & Craig Buck Penguin Books Ltd, 1978 reprint 1983  P. 3
2. Ibid.  P. 3-4
3. Life Magazine
'Special Report.' The Cruelest Crime: Sexual Abuse of Children: The Victims, The Offenders, How to Protect Your Family" Dec. 1984 Cheryl McCall p. 35
4. Handbook of Clinical Intervention In Child Sexual Abuse
"A Conceptual Framework for Child Sexual Abuse"  Suzanne M. Sgroi, Lexington Books 1982 p.10-12
5. Betrayal Of Innocenc
e p. 3
6. Psychological.--Cultural and Family Factors in Incest and Family Sexual Abuse David Finkelhor University of New Hampshire 1978 VS2
7. OP. Cit.  P. 33
8. Ibid. p. 45-46
9. Prevention of Child Abuse Through Theatre
Ville Marie Social Services & Department of Youth Protection 1984 P. 22-23.
10.  Impact of Child Sexual Abuses A Review of the Research
Angela Browne & David Finkelhor University of New Hampshire Psychological Bulletin 1986 Vol. 99 No. 1 p. 66





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