-- English author Anthony Trollope (1812-1882), describing
Americans in his autobiography.

When a work lifts your spirits and inspires bold and noble
thoughts in you, do not look for any other standard to judge
by:
the work is good, the product of a master craftsman.

-- La Bruyere, "Les Caractres," 1688

Love one another,
but don't make a bond of love.
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but do not drink from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but do not eat from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone.

-- Kahlil Gibran, "The Prophet"

Experience
includes experiencing
what we do not want to
experience

-- Sigmund Freud

Words,
if you need words
for your knowledge and understandings,
like a bird in a cage.
It has wings but cannot fly

-- Inspired by Kahlil Gibran

The sages do not consider that making no mistakes is a
blessing.
They believe, rather, that the great virtue of man lies in his
ability to correct his mistakes and continually make a new man
of
himself.

-- Wang Yang-Ming

Solve every problem in your life
Even IT IS impossible.
We are human.
Look at the time,
we can measure what is immeasurable

-- Inspired by Kahlil Gibran

The deeper that sorrow carves into your being,
the more joy you can contain.
The cup that holds your wine is
the very cup that was burned in the potter's oven...
When you are joyous,
look deep into your heart and you shall find
it is only that which has given you sorrow
that is giving you joy.
When you are sorrowful,
look again in your heart, and you shall see
that in truth you are weeping for that
which has been your delight

-- Kahlil Gibran

Our banks grow taller and faster
than our churches

-- unknown

What a money can buy?
sex but not love
acquaintance but not true friendship
music but not peace
sleep but not rest
medicine but not health
party but not happiness

-- unknown

If your heart is full of love
You will always have something
to give

-- Unknown

God's most precious work of art
is the warmth and love
of a grandmother's heart

-- Unknown

The human mind if allowed to feel will heal itself

-- Dr Paul Vereshack

No man searches more passionately for a dream woman than the child who grows up
motherless

-- Nandor Fodor in The Search For the Beloved

Anthropologist Ashley Montagu recently asked a room full of doctors and nurses how to
determine lack of love from an x-ray. No one answered. He then explained that one can
see dense lines in the bones -- caused by lack of growth that occurs when a child is
unloved

-- Bernie S. Siegel M. D.

Give me the first six years of a child's life and you can have the rest

-- Jesuit maxim

Now the idea that our parents did not love us well or sufficiently is one that creates
enormous resistance in people. Better to believe the fault lies within us, then at least we
maintain the illusion that we can win their love if only we cut our hair, take a bath, become
a doctor, marry the right person, earn more money, call home more often -- you fill in the
blanks to fit the situation

-- Bernie S. Siegel M. D. in Peace, Love and Healing

Our national spotlight should clearly be on the crib -- not on the criminal -- if we are to
change the future. Infants who do not receive a warm welcome into the world will seek
their revenge

-- Dr. Ken Magid and Cole McKelvey in High Risk: Children Without a Conscience

How much easier it is to hate, than to turn inward and face our fear

-- Dr Paul Vereshack

Give me other mothers and I will give you another world

-- St Augustine

She shone for me like an Evening Star, I loved her [his mother] -- but at a distance

-- Sir Winston Churchill

. . . the most painful disease I have every seen is that of an unloved child

-- Dr. Bernie Seigel

Feel it and you will be freed from it. . . . It is astounding how the vast majority
of psychotherapists and the vast majority of patients will do anything to avoid
this truth

-- Dr Paul Vereshack

You show me a murderer and I'll show you a person who's been failed in the supreme
need for love -- who never learned how to love. . . .
Who commits rape?" Rapists are ". . . not interested in sex at all. It is a crime of
violence. And what is the violence about? Rejection by the mother, and they hate women

-- Ashley Montagu in Touch the Future

If I had been loved and cared for differently, I would have been a different person

-- Marlon Brando in Songs My Mother Taught Me

When people ask me what to do, I tell them to just give the child all the love that they
can. Don't worry so much about anything else. And when it comes to discipline: never,
never physically assault the child in any way, and certainly don't assault them with words,
which can be just as cruel as physical punishment

-- Ashley Montagu in Touch the Future

You can guess what happened to people long ago, if you'll just listen to what they say
they felt during the past week

-- Doyle P. Henderson in Amazing Truths About Your Emotions

Behind every act of violence there is a history. A history of being molested, a history of
denying

-- Alice Miller, Interview October, 1987, Omni Magazine, "The Roots of Violence"

It is not merely a question of inner conflict or of 'growing up.' 'Stop fussing over what
your parents did to you!' as skeptics command patients in therapy. The scar consists of
changed anatomy and chemistry within the brain

-- Dr. Peter D. Kramer in Listening To Prozac

Being loved in the present brings up all the ways in which we were not loved in the past.
No amount of love in the present, not a single person, not ten thousand people loving us all
at once, can make up for or take away the pain of the betrayals of the past. . . .The only
insurance against repeating the pain in the past is to allow ourselves to feel it fully and
release it in the present

-- Geneen Roth in When Food Is Love

A baby born today has a roughly 50-50 chance of keeping his father. This is the first
generation of American kids who must face not the sad loss of fathers to death, but the far
more brutal knowledge that, to their fathers, many other things are more important than
they are

-- Maggie Gallagher in The Abolition of Marriage

Intimacy is showing another person the parts of ourselves that we believe to be unworthy
and thereby risking that they will turn from us the way our parents did. . . Intimacy brings
with it tenderness and humor, companionship and affection, but it also demands that we
relive the most agonizing moments of being a child

-- Geneen Roth in When Food Is Love

The proper time to influence the character of a child is about a hundred years before he
is born.

-- Dean Inge

If a child does not receive adequate attention and richness of social experience in early
life, the results are apt to be irreversible. No amount of subsequent training can fully
compensate for the error. Nature relies heavily on the behavior of the mother toward the
newborn in its first years of life. . . The measure of love the child receives, the types of
training and education and the time when they take place, will determine the
characteristics of the future man

-- George Crile, Jr. M.D. in The Naturalistic View of Man

When we allow our bodies or our weight to interfere with the quality of intimacy in our
lives, when we feel too fat to have our thighs or our bellies stroked, when we feel too ugly
to be seen with the lights on, we are trying to protect ourselves from being hurt. Again.
But the hurt we are protecting ourselves from is not in the present. Nor is it in the future.
We are trying to protect ourselves from a feeling a hurt that has nothing to do with our
lives now; over and over, for the rest of our lives, we try to protect ourselves from feeling
our past, and in so doing we never allow ourselves to claim the present

-- Geneen Roth inWhen Food Is Love

Natural forces within us are the true healers of disease

-- Hippocrates

In taking patients to the depths of their unconscious, we have yet to see the mysteries
heretofore described in the psychiatric literature. It is not the vault of Danteesque
phantasmagoria. There are not demons from the eighteenth century, no id or shadow
forces a la Freud, no mystical consciousness to aspire to, nothing that involves a
transcendental process. What we find is just sad, terrified little us

-- Dr. Arthur Janov in Why You Get Sick and How You Get Well

So many of the patients have experienced a neglect of their most basic, deepest human
needs -- for touching and for companionship, for sharing inner feelings, for expressing
creative energy, for sexual fulfillment, for personal validation, and for the giving and
receiving of love. Instead their lives were characterized by duty and obligation to the very
people who gave them little or nothing in return

-- Dennis Jaffe - Quoted in The Type C Connection: The Behavioral Links to Cancer and Your Health by Dr. Lydia Temoshok and Henry Dreher

The heart has reasons that reason does not know

-- Blaise Pascal (1623-1662)

Men regard themselves as free, since they are aware of their will and their desires, and
do not even in dreams think of the causes which determine their desiring and willing, as
they do not know them

-- Spinoza (1632-1677)

One's own self is well hidden from oneself; of all mine's of treasure, one's own is the last
to be dug up

-- Friederich Nietzsche (1844-1900)

Drugs, crime, youth violence, gangs, teen pregnancy, dropouts, teen suicide, all of these
problems of America's cities are symptoms of a deeper problem in society. And that is, that
for too often in these last 30 years, America has forgotten and neglected its children

-- Unknown

I would like to see every child in America born is a planned, wanted child

-- Joycelyn Elders - U. S. Attorney General

Giving birth . . . may be for the mother a kind of fulfillment of the . . . double wish to be a
baby and have a baby. . . Her own symbiosis with [her] mother may be experienced. . . and
thus the loss of the growing separation would be a double one --- the lost of [a child] and
the loss of the mother

--  Ann Berman in Early Female Development

Give and Take...
... For to the bee a flower is a fountain if life
And to the flower a bee is a messenger of love
And to both, bee and flower,
the giving and the receiving is a need and an ecstasy

-- Kahlil Gibran

The work an unknown good man has done is like a vein of water
flowing hidden underground, secretly making the ground green.

-- Thomas Carlyle

The shortest and surest way to live with honor in the world is
to
be in reality what we would appear to be.

-- Socrates

It is the highest form of self-respect to admit mistakes and to
make amends for them.

-- John J. McCloy

The wonder is, not that the field of stars is so vast, but that
man has measured it.

-- Anatole France (1844-1924), French poet, novelist and
critic.

Patriotism and philanthropy consist, not so much in altering
laws and modifying institutions, as in helping and stimulating men
to elevate and improve themselves by their own free and
independent individual action.

-- Samuel Smiles (1812-1904) from the Victorian era
best-selling book "Self-Help."

If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is
because he hears a different drummer. Let him step to the music
he hears, however measured or far away.

-- Henry David Thoreau, "Walden," 1854

If I do not want what you want, please try not to tell me that my want is wrong.
Or if I believe other than you, at least pause before you correct my view.
Or if my emotion is less than yours, or more, given the same circumstances, try
not to ask me to feel more strongly or weakly.
Or yet if I act, or fail to act, in the manner of your design for action, let me be.

I do not, for the moment at least, ask you to understand me. That will come only
when you are willing to give up changing me into a copy of you.

I may be your spouse, your parent, your offspring, your friend, or your
colleague. If you will allow me any of my own wants, or emotions, or beliefs, or
actions, then you open yourself, so that some day these ways of mine might not
seem so wrong, and might finally appear to you as right--for me. To put up with
me is the first step to understanding me. Not that you embrace my ways as right
for you, but that you are no longer irritated or disappointed with me for my
seeing waywardness. And in understanding me you might come to prize my
differences from you, and, far from seeking to change me, preserve and even
nurture those differences.

-- David Keirsey and Marilyn Bates  "Please Understand Me"

They do not build monuments for the
people who had everything in their lives,
they build monuments for the
people who gives

-- Herb True

If you give lives to others
Life will surround you

-- Unknown

Look to this day
Yesterday is already a dream
and tomorrow is only a vision.
But today, well-lived,
makes every yesterday a dream of happiness
and every tomorrow a vision of  hope

-- Unknown

Knowing but do not do anything
means not knowing

-- Zen

When you graduate from university
Forget anything you  have learnt
Or you become the professor.
Highly educated scholars
have all the knowledge
for the world that do not exist anymore

-- Unknown

Don't push youself to be liked by others
to be accepted, to be chosen
There is only one time to know
whether others like and accept you :
at your funeral

-- Unknown

Justice eats compassion
Compassion eats justice
Which one do you struggle for?

-- Unknown

Money cannot buy happiness
but there's a lot we can do with it

-- Ancient Chinese Proverb

If we can make the right decision very quickly
We have already won the second world war

-- Japanese elderstatesman

Dost thou love life? Then do not squander time, for that's the
stuff life is made of.
-- Benjamin Franklin (1706-1790), "Poor Richard's Almanac"

Life is no brief candle to me. It is sort of a splendid torch
which I have got hold of for a moment, and I want to make it
burn as brightly as possible before handing it on to future
generations.
-- George Bernard Shaw

No man or woman of the humblest sort can really be strong,
gentle and good, without the world being better for it, without
somebody being helped and comforted by the very existence of that
goodness.
-- Phillips Brooks

Just because the solutions of problems are not visible at any
particular time does not mean that those problems will never be
alleviated -- or confined to tolerable dimensions. History has a way
of changing the very terms in which problems operate and of leaving
them, in the end, unsolved, to be sure, yet strangely deflated of their
original meaning and importance.
-- M.I. Abramowitz

Years later, people look back upon their darkest day and say -- as
Churchill said of London's war years -- "This was our finest hour." In
a tough spot right now? You may be on the very edge of winning!
-- Guy Lynch

Don't let the fear of the time it will take to accomplish something
stand in the way of your doing it. The time will pass anyway; we
might just as well put that passing time to the best possible use.
-- Earl Nightingale
 

Strong minded, resolutely willed, you can create out of nothing a
great business, a huge empire, a new world. Others have and they
have no monopoly.
-- Claude Bristol, The Magic of Believing

Harrison Ford played a bellboy in his first Columbia picture, 1966's
"Dead Heat on a Merry-Go-Round," and a studio executive told him,
"You ain't got it, kid," the "it" being star quality. Ford laughs at the
story now.

If you pump casually, you will pump forever. Pump hard to begin with and keep it up until you get that water flowing. Then a great deal will happen.
-- Zig Ziglar, See You At the Top
 

Studies indicate that the one quality all successful people have is persistence. They're willing to spend more time accomplishing a task and to perservere in the face of many difficult odds. There's a very positive relationship between people's ability to accomplish any task and the time they're willing to spend on it.
-- Joyce Brothers

Getting ahead in a difficult profession -- singing, acting, writing, whatever -- requires avid faith in yourself. You must be able to sustain yourself against staggering blows and unfair reversals. When I think back to those first couple of years in Rome, those endless rejections, without a glimmer of encouragement from anyone, all those failed screen tests, and yet I never let my desire slide away from me, my belief in myself and what I felt I could achieve.
-- Sophia Loren

Pessimism becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. The good news is -- optimism does too. Since you're free to choose, choose success and happiness. Choose optimism!

Become a possibilitarian. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see the possibilities -- always see them, for they're always there.
-- Norman Vincent Peale, The Power of Positive Thinking

We must look for ways to be an active force in our own lives. We must take charge of our own destinies, design a life of substance and truly begin to live our dreams.
-- Les Brown, Live Your Dreams
 

Take control of your destiny. Believe in yourself. Ignore those who try to discourage you. Avoid negative sources, people, places, things and habits. Don't give up and don't give in.
-- Wanda Carter

Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the wholestaircase, just take the first step.
-- Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

When we create something, we always create it first in a thought form. If we are basically positive in attitude, expecting and envisioning pleasure, satisfaction and happiness, we will attract and create people, situations, and events which conform to our positive expectations.
-- Shakti Gawain, Creative Visualization

There is no security on this earth; there is only opportunity.
--General Douglas MacArthur

It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare, it is because we do not dare that they are difficult.
-- Seneca

Every adversity, every failure and every heartache carries with it the Seed of an equivalent or a greater Benefit.
-- Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich
 

Every achiever I have ever met says, "My life turned around when I began to believe in me."
-- Robert Schuller

It isn't what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.
-- Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People

Change your thoughts and you change your life.

Where there is life, there is hope. Where there are hopes, there are dreams. Where there are vivid dreams repeated, they become goals. Goals become the action plans and game plans that winners dwell on in intricate detail, knowing that achievement is almost automatic when the goal becomes an inner commitment. The response to the challenges of life -- purpose -- is the healing balm that enables each of us to face up to adversity and strife.
-- Dennis Waitley

We all walk in the dark and each of us must learn to turn on his or her own light.
-- Earl Nightingale
 

We get new ideas from God every hour of our day when we put our trust in Him -- but we have to follow that inspiration up with perspiration -- we have to work to prove our faith. Remember that the bee that hangs around the hive never gets any honey.
-- Albert E. Cliffe

Fight fire with fire, and all you'll end up with is ashes.
-- Abigail Van Buren

There's often no way you can look into the game of life and determine whether or not you'll get that big break tomorrow or whether it will take another week, month, year or even longer. But it will come!
-- Zig Ziglar, See You At the Top
 

Notice the difference between what happens when a man says to himself, "I have failed three times," and what happens when he says, "I'm a failure."
-- S. I. Hayakawa

To the degree we're not living our dreams, our comfort zone has more control of us than we have over ourselves.
-- Peter McWilliams

Success gravitates toward those who are perceived to be successful. Regardless of how you feel within, you must emanate success if you want to attract people to your cause.
-- Jeff Herman

I offer you peace. I offer you love. I offer you friendship.
I see your beauty. I hear your need. I feel your feelings.
My wisdom flows from the Highest Source. I salute that Source in you.
Let us work together for unity and love.
-- Mahatma Gandhi, Prayer for Peace

To make the right choices in life, you have to get in touch with your soul. To do this, you need to experience solitude, which most people are afraid of, because in the silence you hear the truth and know the solutions.
-- Deepak Chopra

How much better a thing it is to be envied than to be pitied.
-- Herodotus
 

God, I offer myself to Thee, to build with me and to do with me as Thou wilt. Relieve me of the bondage of self, that I may better do Thy will. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those I would help of Thy power, Thy love and Thy way of life. May I do Thy will always. Amen.
-- Prayer, Alcoholics Anonymous

Whatever you do, you need courage. Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising which tempt you to believe that your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to the end, requires some of the same courage which a soldier needs.
-- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Prosperity is a way of living and thinking, and not just money or things. Poverty is a way of living and thinking, and not just a lack of money or things.
-- Eric Butterworth

Good timber does not grow with ease; the stronger the wind, the stronger the trees.
-- J. Willard Marriott

Keep working your way through the maze. You'll know what it is when it happens, but you won't know until then. "God grinds the axes he intends to use."
-- Dave Sim

Looking back on my life, I wish I'd stepped forward and made a fool of myself more often when I was younger -- because when you do, you find out you can do it.
-- William Sessions, former FBI Director

If you want a quality, act as if you already had it. Try the "as if" technique.
-- William James

Life is too short to spend your precious time trying to convince a person who wants to live in gloom and doom otherwise. Give lifting that person your best shot, but don't hang around long enough for his or her bad attitude to pull you down. Instead, surround yourself with optimistic people.
-- Zig Ziglar, Success for Dummies

I like to listen. I have learned a great deal from listening carefully. Most people never listen.
-- Ernest Hemingway

No one can give you authority. But if you act like you have it, others will believe you do. -- Karin Ireland, The Job Survival Instruction Book

When you work you fulfil a part of earth's furthest dream, assigned to you when that dream was born.
And in keeping yourself with labour you are in truth loving life,
And to love life through labour is to be intimate with life's inmost secret.
-- Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet

"True love" isn't so much a dreamy feeling that you have as it is an enduring commitment to give sacrificially --even, or perhaps especially, when you don't feel like it.
-- William R. Mattox, Jr.

I'm stuck like a dope
With a thing called hope,
And I can't get it out of my heart.
-- Oscar Hammerstein, from lyrics to South Pacific

The test of a successful person is not an ability to eliminate all problems before they arise, but to meet and work out difficulties when they do arise. We must be willing to make an intelligent compromise with perfection lest we wait forever before taking action. It's still good advice to cross bridges as we come to them.
-- David J. Schwartz, The Magic of Thinking Big

When you make a mistake or get ridiculed or rejected, look at mistakes as learning experiences, and ridicule as ignorance. . . . Look at rejection as part of one performance, not as a turndown of the performer.
-- Dennis Waitley, Seeds of Greatness

Do or do not. There is no try.
-- Yoda

The dog that fetches will also carry. (Translation: If someone reveals another's secrets to you, the same person will reveal your secrets to the world.)
-- Latin proverb

Destiny is not a matter of chance; but a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for,It is a thing to be achieved.
-- William Jennings Bryant

Never try to teach a pig to sing. It wastes your time, and it annoys the pig.
-- Folk saying

What the mind of man can conceive and believe,It can achieve.
-- Napoleon Hill

 I will persist until I succeed. Always will I take another step. If that is of no avail I will take another, and yet another. In truth, one step at a time is not too difficult.... I know that small attempts, repeated, will complete any undertaking.
-- Og Mandino

Courage changes things for the better...[With courage you can] stay with something long enough to succeed at it, realizing that it usually takes two, three or four times as long to succeed as you thought or hoped.
-- Earl Nightingale

What distinguishes us one from another is our dreams . . . and what we do to make them come about.
-- Joseph Epstein

Hold fast to dreams/ For if dreams die,/ Life is a broken-winged bird/ That cannot fly. -- Langston Hughes

All the adversity I've had in my life, all my troubles and obstacles, have strengthened me. . . . You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you.
-- Walt Disney

FORTES FORTUNA ADIUVAT. (Fortune favors the bold.)
-- Terence (2cd century Roman playwright)

Anger is a very appropriate and necessary response to an injustice. But stand back now; the truth, clearly spoken, is always your best weapon. Calmly spoken, it can burn a hole through the hardest heart.
-- Bill Chickering, Healing an Angry Heart