The girl's parent then will tell them (also indirectly) the status of their daughter (whether there is anybody else or not, whether the girl is ready yet to get married etc.). Normally the 'wakil' will leave the girl with a simple gold ring as a sign of `booking’. If the girl (or the parent) did not want to proceed, she can return the ring to the wakil in a week or a month time (depending on the time frame agreed by both parties). After agreement had been reach, the boy's family will set a date for the official engagement troupe to be sent to the girl's house. 

The boy's parents will follow the troupe bringing the 'hantaran' (gifts) to the girl and half of the agreed sum of `wang belanja’ (expenses money- the money is normally use by the girl's parent to pay for the wedding reception. My three sisters’ hantaran amount were RM3,000.00). This money is an addition to the 'mas kahwin' (dowry) to be paid by the man to his future wife. This is a compulsory gift according to Muslim tradition. The mas kahwin amount is determined by the state religious department (this is to prevent the girl putting the price too high!) In Johor, the amount is RM22.50. Beside in the form of money, it can be in the form of other gifts.

If the solemnisation happen a night before the reception, the couple will go through the ‘berinai’ ceremony after that. Inai is red henna. It will be applied on the hands of both couple as a sign of blessing. The family member from both sides will take turn to perform this tradition while the couple was seated on a special dais ‘pelamin’. Beside henna, sometimes they have popcorns, rice and flour mixture applied on the palm and forehead or showered on both couple. These are Malay traditions and nothing to do with religious requirement. Other activities on that night will be the recital of the holy verses from the Quran by the brides and her maiden's friends, the reading of poetry about the prophet (berzanji), doa or prayers for the couple and of course food! 

In some area, the berinai ceremony is strictly women's affair while the men folk prepare for the feast. In many rural kampung, family and friends from far away will spend the night at the host house. An elderly woman attendant or ‘Mak Andam’ trims the bride's hair and applied henna to her hands and feet after the Koran reading session. 

The next day (the reception) the ceremony will start with the feast from lunchtime (around 11.00am) till about 3.00pm. The ‘Bersanding’ ceremony begins at 3.00. ‘Bersanding’ is sitting-in-state, theoretically the first time the young couple meets. The bride is seated on chairs on a platform or on a richly decorated bed. The noise of the kompang (drums) announcing the bridegrooms procession is heard outside but she may still have to wait a little while. Although the groom is carried, paddled or driven from his house to hers in splendour, he may not be allowed in! Member’s of the bride's household vociferously refuse entry until some gift presented to all the people who are blocking the way, normally young girls. The biggest ‘gift’ will go to the Mak Andam who is sitting beside the bride and holding a fan to cover the bride's face.