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PLEASE READ EVERYTHING ON THIS PAGE BEFORE CONTACTING ME An Introduction to Monica I'm probably going to be a little different than other people you have chatted with, especially other females or people of my age group. I've always been different and I've learned to accept and appreciate this about myself. I take a lot of pride in it in fact. There is a lot to say about me and I prefer to get it out of the way before I chat with people so we don't end up butting heads. I believe at the root of everything you have to have respect. You don't always have to approve or agree with what other people do, think, say, or believe; but at least you can respect their right to it and go on about your own business if you don't like it. I am an Aquarius. I don't follow horoscopes and stuff but this is one profile that truly fits me. Below I've put at chart outlining the Aquarian personality traits. Basically Aquarians as living contradictions, so you will find that I say one thing but the every opposite will be true as well. Like water an Aquarius can be any state and behave in anyway depending on the circumstances. Just as water can nurture and promote life; it can also destroy. You can dam water and try to control it; who doesn't love a beautiful fountain? Yet that same water will erode that very fountain. Don't be surprised at anything about me. I am multi-faceted but I keep a standard for myself. I am a realist; I am not so much of an optimist and don't call me a pessimist. For me the glass isn't half empty or half full; there is just water in it. I don't like plain water so I'm going to get some Kool-Aid and sugar and make myself a drink. If the amount of water didn't make enough Kool-Aid to satisfy me I'll just make some more. That is realism. I also view the world in Reality vs. Idealism. Idealism says that we should "Love thy neighbor", but the reality is that our neighbor maybe a serial killer. Ideally we forgive them as God "ideally" would, but depending on how you take your scriptures God would only forgive a person that repents. You see how things can get really tricky. The reality is that we want that neighbor put behind bars so they never kill again or at the extreme we want them killed so that they can't do it again or as we sometimes see it; so they suffer as much as the people they made suffer. To a lot of people life is an adventure; They want to see and do different things. For me life is an academic pursuit. I agree that you learn from experience, but life hands on doesn't do much for me. Going out and doing things bores me like sitting around and pondering about things bores other people. A lot of things are just to much of a bother to me. Instead of scheduling a trip to the islands, taking days off work and trying to find someone to fill in for me at the desk, hunting online for a cheap flight, washing clothes or shopping for some news things, packing a suitcase, driving to the airport, waiting in line, sitting on a plane for hours, waiting in another line, waiting in another line to check in to the hotel, going to my room to unpack, going to the beach and laying around, going to a resturant waiting to eat, laying around my room, etc etc, lines, lines, going home, and unpacking and then going about my life as I normally would. I would rather get a burger from McDonalds and lay in bed and watch a program about visiting the Islands on Travel channel. I have saved myself hundreds of dollars and I'm still having a great time. Please people stop trying to convince me I'm wrong. Actually in my eyes people that like to travel and do things are wrong but as I said about respect its your right to do what pleases you and just because I don't agree doesn't mean I need to butt all into your business.
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MY CHAT RULES Everyone hates my chat rules, but rules are imposed to keep order. People will always say rules are meant to be broken; these are the same people that speed because they don't get caught and then when they do get caught they bitch and whine about it or God forbid they get into a car accident and who knows what could happen there, just because they think they are above the rules. Just follow the rules and behave like you have some sense. If people behaved like they had sense and just kept it all respectful and mature I wouldn't have to have rules. Believe me I do follow my own rules for the most part. I made them to make my life easier. If you read the rules and feel you can't follow them or they don't apply to you; you have 2 options: 1. Do not contact me. If you don't understand my rules and you can't respect them we won't get along. Not everyone is compatible. There isn't anything wrong with you or me, we just aren't the kind of people that will get along. If one person doesn't like you there are thousands of others that will so just move on to the next person. 2. You can start an argument with me or try to change my mind. I find it EXTREMELY OFFENSIVE when people try to change my mind. I take it as a serious insult so don't do it or I will just get pissed off and put you on the ignore list with the other 70 people and/or put the conversation up on my blog so everyone can see what an ass you are. If you get off on being and asshole please just don't bother me. I'm a cool person I just don't let people walk on me. I'm not here to amuse anyone so get a life. 1. A. My name is Monica. Do not ever address me by a pet name or term of endearment. Not sweetie, honey, luv, queen, cutie, and never SEXY. I hate that word. I don't need or want compliment from people. If I want to boost my ego I'll tell myself I'm great, What other people think of me unless they are friends or family, doesn't matter. Unless I tell you that we are friends then don't assume it and don't award yourself those rights. Its rude and presumptuos. I will be courteous and diplomatic to you, but I will also be honest and the truth is not always what people want to hear. So don't set yourself to get your feelings hurt. B. I know most females love compliments. They spend hours getting their hair and nails done, they shop for just the right outfit and shoes, and they work out till they are in peak shape. I don't do these things. I look the way I look. I try to make sure I'm presentable and professional, but I'm not looking for attention so don't waste your "compliments" on me. On top of that to me it snot a "compliment". You may like the way I look the next person may not; either way it has no effect on my life so I don't care at all about what anyone thinks. 2. I do not meet people I chat with and I do not exchange phone numbers. As I said I'm not online to make friends. I just like to have intelligent conversation on my down time. I don't like to go out so I do my socializing online. Its easier. Face to face can be very akward so I try to avoid it. 3. SEX: Just don't even bring it up. My policy is I don't discuss sex unless its purely academic, but most people can't seem to manage this. I'm almost 25, I'm no stranger to life or men, but I also believe that adults understand and use discretion. Your business is not everyone else's business. You do not have to brag about what you've done. I am not a "freak". If you are a "freak" fine that's your own business do as you please, but please respect my wish not to get involved in that. If you try to force someone to be freaky with you then that makes you a pervert and that's just disgusting. I consider myself sexually enlightened and sexually liberated. I have spent many years researching not just sex, but intimacy, so I have gathered a lot of real knowledge not street rumors and media hyped bullshit.
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MY RELATIONSHIP STATUS I was single from September 2006 to sometime in I guess April 2008, when my friend made it clear to me that he liked me more than a friend. You have to keep in mind I've only had one boyfriend (Jess) in my life before him (Walt), and that relationship lasted 4 years. Freshman year of college till Sept. 2006. I didn't date during any point when I was single. In fact if You look at my blogs I often mention that I don't believe in dating. For someone as different as I am its difficult to find someone that understands what I'm about or appreciates my quirks. My first relationship was based on the fact that both of us had the same kinds of quirks and issues, but when I dealt with my issues and started making changes in my life he hadn't reached that stage yet. I tried to be supportive, but as I learned you can't change people by loving them. They have to want to make that change for themself. So we broke up and stayed friends and roommates, but his issues continued to be a strain on our friendship so he left to start over and try to grow. I guess a lot of people can't live with their ex, but then again we were never most people. I've know Walt since 2005 and we've always been on good terms, but I'm not a social person so we didn't really hang out together. We'd just see each other if we were in the same place. After lots of offers to hang out I finally went out, of course Jess and I were still together so Jess was there as well . Walt makes friends with everyone and I try to stay out of people's business so I didn't ask if he had a girlfriend and he had a lot of female friends so I didn't think he was interested in me. As the relationship broke up and Jess and our friendship frayed Walt was there. I'm not the type to tell people about my problems or ask for help, but Walt seemed genuinely concerned about how I was doing and even though a lot of times I didn't return his calls and I turned down invites to hang out he still checked up on me. Most of the time when people try to get this close to me I get rid of them as quickly as possible, but Walt's someone that I really clicked with. I'm more used to having friends with benefits than being in relationships so when he first kissed me I didn't think he was interested in a relationship, I figured we'd just be intimate and stay friends. He never introduced me as his girlfriend to his friends but all his friends thought I was his girlfriend and he never corrected them, if they asked me I just said we weren't officially together. It wasn't until we had an argument that I really understood how he felt about me. We made up and even though we haven't really discussed officially call our relationship, I'm going to respect the relationship the same I did when I was with Jess. |
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