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| Internet Relationships and why they don't work. |
| I've been online for over 2 years now and I have seen a lot of online relationships start and most of them have ended within 3 to 6 months. Now I'm not saying all of them end because I have seen a few that have actually worked out but those are pretty rare and it takes some special people who have lots of courage and strength to make it happen. And I have nothing but the utmost respect for the couples who have actually made it and are still together. |
| Reason number 1 is the most common one.... the distance factor. in most online relationships, the two people live many hours apart and have responsibilities where they live, in some cases one party lives across the ocean on a different continent. Those couples break up because after a few months or so they realize that their meeting is never going to happen and they get frustrated and cannot pretend anymore that maybe someday they'll meet. 99 percent of these couples never work out and if they do last, down deep in their heart they know the truth and just pretend it's not there. |
| Reason number 2 is also pretty common... I call it the online stud supermodel syndrome. when 2 people meet online, they pretty much exaggerate to make themselves look greater than they are. little instances that happened like they saved a dog from getting hit turn into they saved 5 kids, 2 old ladies and 3 dogs from getting hit by pushing them out of the way of an oncoming car. Now I know this is chat and people can say what they want but in a relationship, building yourself up just to get someone to like you is not fair to the other person. After the relationship has grown for a while, then the person usually tends to get the real side of the other one and most of the time, their not too happy with it and break it off to find someone who they have more in common with. |
| Another reason is what I call... what you don't know can hurt you. When a person comes online, they come in with the purpose of meeting new people and having fun, however some people come online to play games or as a joke. When they meet someone they lie and tell them all these things that are not true to make the person like them, including giving them the wrong age, a different height or weight or even a different gender. They get someone to care for them and tell the person what they want to hear. And then down the road when the person finds out the truth, they are heartbroken but the joker's reasoning is it was a joke that got out of hand. no harm done. I mean this is chat, noone takes it seriously right? Wrong, people get hurt in chat relationships just like in real life relationships. You put your heart and soul into one and have it last for months and months, it becomes real and the outcome is the same as a real life relationship. |
| Someone once told me that the problem with online relationships is that someone could be telling you they love you and be telling 5 other people the same thing on different pms and you wouldn't know. In my opinion, you cannot trust most of the things you hear online because like I said earlier people will tell you what you want to hear and then go and tell someone else a different thing if it's what they want to hear. A lot of online people are what I call players. They have things going with more than 2 people because it's just a game to them and they don't care if anyone gets hurt as long as they get what they want. They are the ones who give chat and the net a bad name, people who don't have online experience look at them and say the net is a breeding ground of porno, cybering and just plain smut. |
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