here on this page i would like to talk about saftey, we all need and have the right to feel safe and secure, and please note i do not just mean for the females, there are some Dominants who have been in some pretty freaky situations, not trying to stereo type Dominants into the Male group here but it is the most common situation Male Dominant- female sub/slave.. but please use common sense.
When a sub meets a Dom on line, she really doesn't know anything other than what she is being told,nor does He for that matter,but please think, subs we are taught to be accepting and pleasing in all ways to our Dominant counter parts, but this does NOT mean giving up our saftey, and a real Dominant will have our saftey in mind as well as Their Own. They know and understand the fears and concerns we face and realize they are real, So if you are in a situation and the Dominant begins to ask for your real name, where you work, where you live, phone numbers etc... please use caution and good sense, the need to be loved and to belong will drive us to make rash choices at times, but please i can not stress this enough BECAREFUL. Do you realize with a phone number it may only take less than 30 minutes to locate you, at your home? there is a scary thought huh?... and it is sad but so very true, where ever we have submissives/slaves of either gender, there will always be preditors, waiting to prey upon them...
Your best defense is, caution, time, the willingness to move slowly and NEVER ignore a gut feeling, if you feel something isn't right most likely it isn't. listen to that little voice it is warning you throwing up red flags.. Would you walk up to a stranger off the street and hand Him/Her your personal information? no i think not, then exercise this same caution when chatting on line.. for one thing, your personal information has nothing to do with getting to know you as a person.. so no one needs know that about you.. This wonderful world of D/s BDSM has many, many wonderful loving Dominants and submissives all colors shapes and genders, take time to know Them and let Them know you, but be safe and honest, just remember some of the most deadly people in our history of serial killers seemed normal well adjusted members of their communities, and in some cases death was not a luxury to the torment and torture the victims experienced at the hands of these monsters.
Does this scare you? i hope not, but i do hope it opens your eyes and makes you think, and helps you plan, Do not let yourselves be bullied into submitting and meekly hand over your information before a strong trust has been formed, and yes that takes time and alot of it.. but you are worth the wait, and so is the other person who you will find the bliss and joy we all seek, please help your self not to become a victim to a sexual preditor, take care of you, you are of value as you are and when you find your One They too will see your value and know you are worth this time..... a word to the Dominants....
Sirs and Ma'am alike please as our Dominant counter parts and Friends, and future Owners and Mates, please help with this messege and offer Your support to any submissive You chat with, remind them that we all Yourselves as well deserve to be safe and secure...and when You do this know You have my heart felt thanks and utmost respect for being the true Dominants in this World. remind them that in their quest for what ever it is they seek, to take caution and care. and place a high value upon Yourself as well and pass along these values to any You teach.. after all a Dominant is a teacher first and foremost, smiles for A/all |
