| well here we are again and angel is still talking. sometimes i feel if i shut up i'll forget to say something important and it will matter..so i keep talking. For my own good perhaps i should get stock in ball gags.There is something here i would like to talk about.. it is called compromise. In some cases it is a good word and one that has settled wars and battles and held marriages together.( i didnt refer to battles and wars and marriages in the same breath as a slander....honestly) but i often wonder if that word...compromise, is a good one in a D/s relationship?? If a Master/Dom gives His sub a task to perform, He does expect it done to the best of her ability. Even at times knowing she may not really like doing what ever it is ( and believe it or not there are going to be times we don't like something) But having that trust in our Master to know what is best for us and the desire to serve we do these tasks and with this in mind it is to help us grow in someway. So.. if we are told to do a certain task and we fail to do so out of sheer stubornness, should the Master compromise His place and let it slide? Just because He knows we might not like doing this one certain thing? OR should He hold firm and use what ever means of punishment He sees fit for the offense? OK here is what i think..... IF i am given a task, i try my best to do it and to do a good job.. not saying i will not pout, mutter and curse at times... and if i fail to do this job.....i would expect some type of punishment. IF not IF a Master were to compromise on this issue with me.. i would soon loose respect for Him and begin trying to compromise other issues and hence sabatoging the meaning of submission and taking over my will and removing it from the Master's care. Even in small ways i do this with out thinking... i find the boundaries set and then test them over and over to make sure they are firm and uncompromisable ( is that a word?) And i have to admit, when i find these boundaries set firmly and unbendable...... i feel quite secure and function at my best. So is the word compromise a good one? not in these cases it isn't.That doesn't mean that all things in the relationship has to be so firm... each are different so use You own head when talking about this.. but remember a sub can not submit to someone she doesn't respect. After all, He cares enough to give her the task, shouldn't He care enough to see it carried through? |
