| What's New - Dec 2004 - Pt 2 |
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| Dec 27- 2004 - This Christmas weekend went by too quick! I think it's because I'm so behind at work! Well, much to everyone's surprise - I cooked. I made Prime Rib, cheesecake, & sausage cheeseballs. I know everyone thinks that I don't cook or don't know how to cook, but i really do. The comments that I received from my friend, Tim, was: "Jenny, You don't know how to cook." I explained to him that just because I don't cook, doesn't mean I don't know HOW to cook. he said, "I don't think you've EVER cooked since i've known you. You're a city chick...you just don't cook." This lead to my quizzing all my guy friends as to whether or not they thought I was "domestic". The overwhelming answer was "no". Henry went so far as to say that he had the impression that I wouldn't be good with kids (i was going to go back to school for my teaching credential, was involved in junior high school ministry, and have been babysitting since i was 11 years old...); i didn't clean (yet there I was cleaning HIS house during one of HIS parties); and that I didn't know how to cook (yet...oh wait...i've had several dinner parties where I actually cooked.). That whole conversation lead off into a yelling match...well i was yelling - henry was laughing...which of course, ticked me off even more!! Anyhow, to make a long story longer....yes, i know how to cook. I just don't like to do it, ok???? Ok. Settled. Hope you all had a Merry Christmas...here's to a Happy New Year!! Dec 22, 2004- About 6 months ago, Erin M, Christa & I were having drinks and talking about relationships, etc (as women almost always do). I can't remember the exact conversation, but the gist of the conversation was that Erin had suggested that I go for "Bob" ("bob" because i can't remember who she had suggested). My comment to her was that he was out of my league and there was no way he'd ever go out with ME. She looked me straight in the eyes and said, "That's b*ll $hit. There are no such things as 'leagues'." Christa readily agreed with that statement. I had to look at them like they were (a) crazy, and (b) like they were totally unrealistic. I mean, really...if I were to go up to Matt Damon, do you REALLY think that he'd even give me the time of day?? Uh unh...not happening. But then I realized that Matt Damon isn't really the "rule", but rather the exception to the rule - he's got fame & fortune which most "men out of my 'league'" do not have. Last night I went out to movies & dinner with Erin F & Kristi. Somehow we got to talking about "leagues". Erin & Kristi said that they believed that leagues existed. I surprised myself by saying, "I don't believe in 'leagues'". I really didn't think through my statement until I got home (more on my thoughts in a bit). Erin brought up some very valid points - 1. if there are no such things as 'leagues' then why do cliques exist? Well, cliques are merely groups of people that have common interest/goals/views; and 2.) which was unspoken but understood - the Matt Damon thing (which I have discussed already). Now, here are the reasons why I don't really think that 'leagues' exist - merely a culmination of my views for the past 6 months... 1.) There is no man that I can think of that I believe to be "better" than me. He may be richer, smarter, or better looking than me...but they are not "better" than me. 2.) Take any "ugly" woman with a "good looking" man. I guarantee you that she doesn't think that the man she is with is "better" than she is or that she doesn't deserve him. And if she DOES believe this, then I can almost guarantee you that the relationship will not last. Why, you ask? Because eventually he'll start believing that she's not "good enough" for him, too. 3.) It's all about attititude. I think that I almost get it now. I didn't understand why Erin M, who is vrey pretty but not in a runway model kind of way, had guys literally tripping over themselves to get to her. She does not believe that there are guys out there who are actually out of her "league". On a personal level, I've noticed that with the change in my attitude that there are more guys talking to me, complimenting me and heck...even flirting with me. (AMAZING, PEOPLE...ABSOLUTELY AMAZING...this guy that i thought was totally hot flirted with me!!) Don't get me wrong, I don't have guys hanging onto all parts of me or dates lined up into next year (or for that matter, any at all) but I have noticed certain changes in me that reflect out to others. My friend, Henry, even commented on it - he said that I have this newfound confidence that I didn't have before - and that it was a very good thing! This is a definite science experiment just waiting to happen! :) Dec 20, 2004 - Work Christmas Parties...it's an unusual beast. At some companies it's perfectly acceptable to get sloshed on the company dime no matter who you are. I don't happen to work at one of those types of companies. Since I have my new resolve of not drinking, it was actually quite fun to watch others in that predicament. Our new VP of Consumer Marketing (asian brutha...around 27 ish) brought a date to the party (asian sistah...around 22 ish...although our VP of HR was convinced that she was only around 17...). All very good...until his date became hammered, smashed, & blitzed out of her mind. She started doing the bump & grind on anyone walking by - men, women...didn't really matter to her. Then she started flipping our receptionist off for no reason. Yeah...class act. The best part is when they started dirty dancing on the dance floor...with another girl. i was so disgusted - totally reminded me of asian dance clubs of college years. Ugh. Mental note: it is NEVER acceptable for a VP to dance at company functions if you don't know how to dance or if your dance style grosses people out. Hmmm...let's just say it's never acceptable for a VP to dance at a company function. Onto other sad news...my co-worker's dad was shot & killed in an armed robbery in his liquor store on Saturday morning near Beverly Hills. It's so senseless. Billy is giving a press conference at noon today. I don't know how he's going to do it. It's never a good time for these kinds of tragedies, but honestly - right before Christmas is REALLY tough. This made me think about all the tragedies that occur in this world. A lot of people blame God - they wonder how He can allow it. But honestly? Without pain & suffering how can we truly experience joy & happiness? There would be no benchmark - no comparisons. There wouldn't be life. Don't get me wrong, i don't EVER want to have to lose someone in such a horrible way...it still sucks & it's still horrible. (More stuff about me.) |