We as humans are as multifaceted as cut gems. Ideally, a lover would seek, also, to be a friend . By that I mean someone who is genuinely interested in myself as a person as I can be of them. Any relationship is founded on mutual grounds,. Hence, we must have some things in common other than sex, be it spirituality,ethics, physical activity, what so ever. Friendship itself is founded on trust,belief,honesty and other intangibles. These would likewise be present, in an active sense rather than a passive one. There would be demonstration by actions ( not purchases or sexual contact ) that we were friends, reciprocal deeds done by both he and I that built trust and confidence in each other. How can one be a lover, yet not be a friend?
I am not looking for "Prince Charming". What I offer is honesty, loyalty, affection and the many intangibles we all need. When my parents passed away in the early parts of 2004, my ex did not so much as put an arm around me and say "I'm here for you". That was really a wake up call. I need someone is is willing to rely on me, but equally, wants to be relied on. Someone whom I can believe in just as much as they can me. I'm not into sex games, scat play, watersports, bdsm or anything like that. I enjoy sex, mutual oral stimulation, being bottom or even top..or just cuddling. However, sex is only one facet of a relationship, without the honesty, trust, belief and the many other qualities.. sex becomes and empty physiological necessity rather than an expression of affection.
Years ago, in 1978, I became a Jehovah's Witness. I met someone who at first was rather homely. By the time I left in 1985, had this person came out to me as being gay ( which he isn't), I would be with him now. His deeds built a trust and belief that still endures.
About me
With that being said.. I as a person believe "life is a banquet and most poor suckers are starving to death". There's a beautiful world here.I enjoy hikes and walks in good weather. I enjoy movies, both at home and in a theatre. I love plays and am myself a published poet. I enjoy art and music. I adore history and egyptology. I do not think life is expensive, it is our wants that make it so. The best things in life are usually free.
I like quiet suppers at home as well as in a restaurant. I enjoy the companionship of good trusted friends. I usually avoid the bar scene, but am not adverse to drinking. My favorites are Drambouie, Scotch and flavoured Rum. I enjoy nature and enjoy being nude, not necessarily as a prelude to sex. My interests are wide and varied from Paranormal research to hiking at the Hocking Hills to shopping at the North Market.
I enjoy life and don't limit myself to race. I am partcularly attracted to brown haired/ brown eyed guys. The combo is asthetically pleasing to me. However, I do not try to limit myself on a person's physical characteristics. To me, that is shallow approach to meeting people.
I've just come out of a 5 year relationship with someone who used me financially.We separated in Set of last year. He was a couch potatoe so my waist grew horribly, a matter that is being resolved. But that, as in all things, will take time. Already, I've shed over 80 pounds. In time, I'll be back to my normal 150-160. But it will take time.
If this monologue has whetted your appetite, browse the rest of my website and email me.If nothing else emerges, at least we'll have met one another and perhaps a friendship will grow.
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