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Pearls
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Dearest Sean & Kristen,
Here,
there and everywhere on this site,
you will see three pearls arranged in a row.
Notice
the size of the pearls?
One little one, one big one, and one in-between.
They symbolize you and Kelen.
Kelen, Sean and Kristen.
In that order.
The pearls bring you right to this page,
bringing you instantly to
The Art of Marriage.
The
creation of this site was inspired by your
Aunty Cecelia,
who, after she had spoken her words of love to you
via the videographer, said this to me:
"You
two should be advising them on
how to be happy in a marriage."
Kristen's
Aunty Cecelia
She pointed to the video
camera.
Too shy to say a word to the camera,
I replied, mortified and shaking my head, "Uh, uh."
But no one will accuse me of being not too shy
with the written word.
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Click on any of the
pearls on this page to get to the inspiration of this website
You've
had the fairy-tale wedding.
Maybe you'd like a fairy-tale marriage?
The
Art of Marriage
was
a gift without a bow.
Framed and hanging in
our home,
the wisdom in its words helped to create
the happiness that exists in our marriage.
I too come from a broken home.
And we're not so unusual:
60% of American marriages fail.
We are the fallout,
the kids of divorce.
At the time of my engagement,
my scars were invisible, but deep,
from years of living with dueling parents...
with their "silent treatments,"
tears, tension, and
intensely fierce competition.
A month before our wedding,
DH's and mine, I got the wedding jitters.
What was I thinking?
How did I think I could succeed at marriage?
My parents, who did so many things right in life,
failed so miserably when it came to marriage.
The odds
seemed overwhelmingly against me...us.
Thank goodness for a persuasive father.
He pinned his hopes and aspirations
on his little girl and wished upon her
the marital bliss that eluded him.
DH and I married on July 27, 1974.
At the
time,
I knew of only one couple
who I believed was truly happily married.
They witnessed our wedding,
bolstering our chances for marital bliss
with their support, thoughts and blessings.
Though a full generation ahead of us,
they became
our best friends:
Aunty Chick and Uncle Ted.
(DH's aunt and uncle)
Serving
as uncommon role models,
by their living examples,
they showed us what was attainable.
They
were Masters in the art of marriage
We consciously practiced the wisdom of
The Art of Marriage.
Baby steps at first.
A bit of stumbling now and again.
The occasional pratfall.
With practice, perseverance and commitment,
lo and behold!
Ours too became the fairy-tale marriage.
Magic happens!
May you,
Kristen and Sean, embrace the wisdom
of these magical pearls of wisdom.
They are words of power, love and fulfillment:
The
Art of Marriage
A good marriage must be created.
In
marriage the little things become the big things.
It is
never being too old to hold hands.
It is
remembering to say, "I Love You" at least once a day.
It is
never going to sleep angry.
It is
having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is
standing together facing the world.
It is
forming a circle of love that gathers the whole family.
It is
speaking words of appreciation.
And
demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is
having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is
giving each other room to grow.
It is a
common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is not only marrying the right person,
it is being the right partner.
May the road rise to
meet you,
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face,
The rains fall soft upon your fields.
And until we meet again,
May God hold you in the palm of His hand.
With Aloha,
DH & AU
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A happy marriage is still the greatest treasure within the gift
of fortune."
~ Eden Phillpotts
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