"Love in the heart was not meant there
to stay. Love is not love till you give it away". For love to
be ever lasting and eternal every one should be aware of the
different stages of love and know its significance. Following
are the different phases through which you will travel in your
love life and only those who pass it will have an endless
love.
ATTRACTION Attraction can
be defined as something, which is more than friendship and is
a step towards getting ready for a relationship. Now
attraction is of two types:
a. Physical
Attraction - happens when your body reacts to another
person. Heart rate increases; temperature rises, palms get
sweaty; stomach flutters; throat tightens; etc. This is what
will tell you that you are ready for the first contact and
also whether you are comfortable in the company of the other
person.
b. Emotional Attraction
- develops next if the circumstances are right.
After being drawn to a person physically, you then begin to
come closer. If you find you have things in common -- hobbies,
ideologies, career, education, or some other common ground --
then an emotional attraction starts to form. Sometimes an
emotional attraction can occur even when a physical attraction
does not. And in this case, the bond will be stronger between
the two who connect, since no preconceived notions based on
physical appearance has occurred.
INTIMACY Intimacy is something,
which a person experiences when you learn to trust and believe
your lover. It is a close association with another person of
the deepest nature. You share you thoughts, feelings, and
dreams. You feel free to discuss everything with this person
and you are absolutely comfortable in his company. Thus
intimacy develops gradually. If you can't establish intimacy
with your partner, your relationship may work for a while, but
is unlikely to endure throughout the years. Intimacy is
actually the path to a true, healthy and beautiful
relationship.
ROMANCE Romance is the essence
of a relationship. Without romance your love life will not
exist. Romance is the true identity of your love. It brings
out your true self and helps you be a better lover, husband
and partner. Romance is a celebration of the life you live as
part of a couple. It springs naturally and originates from
within your heart. It makes you do things that you possibly
couldn't have imagined to do otherwise. It shows you who you
are and reminds you of the role you play in a relationship.
Romance is not responsibility but it is caring about your
responsibilities towards your lover and partner. Romance is
the appreciation of two people who are celebrating the lucky
coincidence that they found each other.
PASSION The third stage is
passion, which basically means a desire for another person,
which has grown to an intensity that can't be ignored. This is
often where an emotional relationship turns into a physical
relationship. The passion stage is very important. For from
here you will understand the true meaning and nature of your
relationship. If there is no passion then its best to let go
but if there is passion in your relationship then it is time
to go on to the next stage.
COMMITMENT The last stage
is commitment. This is when you know that you want to spend
your whole life with this person you love and you can do
anything for him. It is when your whole world just revolves
round your lover and you take a pledge to remain true to your
mate throughout good and bad times, be by his side whenever he
needs you.
Thus remember all
these stages if you want your relationship to last forever.
Believe me love is worth the effort. All the best!
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