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First Night Sex
First
night sex in a couple's life is always filled with anxiety, nervousness,
hesitation and there are many questions which creep up in
the back of your mind but with proper guidance and information
you can make your first night memorable. For many people,
the first time is quite unpleasant. If it is an arranged marriage
then it will be very much difficult to open up and be sexually
motivated on the first night itself but just remember one
thing - sex is not at all important on the first night, get
to know each other better and take it easy. You can also begin
with touching and kissing and exploring each other but have
sex only if you are ready for it and you are comfortable.
Sex under pressure is no good and it leads to bitterness and
disappointments. Make sure that both of you understand each
other and respect one another's feelings and desire's. However
for a couples, who know each other, first time is easier since,
you know each other's likes and dislikes, and are more comfortable
with each other.
Some women might have pain and bleeding during insertion because
the hymen breaks. Men might have premature ejaculation. These
things happen because it's the first time your body experiences
such emotions and extreme passion but with time, all these
will settle down. But you can always make your first time
really special and cherish it all your life.
Following are a few questions that bother you:
Will
it hurt the first time? Will I bleed?
This
is the most common question that girls ask. And the answer
is "yes" you might bleed and it will hurt a little when you
have sexual intercourse for the first time. But isn't it the
truth that behind every happiness there lies little pain.
The bleeding usually occurs because the girl has a hymen,
which breaks the first time she has sexual intercourse. Sometimes
a girl might already have broken her hymen as a result of
playing sports, doing strenuous exercise or horse riding.
However with the right touch and the right partner, you should
be able to enjoy your first time without pain. Take your time,
do not force yourself, use a lubricant if necessary, and guide
him through. Tell him when it feels good and when it hurts.
Am I ready
for sex?
This is also another question, which
bothers you, and you feel that may be it is not the right
time or maybe you should wait but you are not sure. If you
think that you are not sure then you need not force yourself
into doing it coz then you will only hurt yourself more. There
are many ways in which you can give and receive sexual pleasure
without having sexual intercourse. For some people giving
each other massages, kissing and hugging can be very passionate
and can be more fulfilling than sexual intercourse. Therefore
what is important is to be comfortable in each other company
and not to be pressurized into having sex when you don't really
want to. Once you think that you are ready then go ahead and
do it. And believe me this time it will really be fulfilling
and memorable.
How do I have
"good" sex?
For this what is most important
as discussed above is being comfortable and relaxed in each
other's company and wanting to have sex without any compulsion
or pressure. It's natural to feel some worries but good communication
is the key. Being relaxed and able to share things with your
partner who is also probably feeling nervous will ease the
tension. And what follows is not a set of rules. Rules about
sex are impossible-- what should matter is that what you do
makes you feel good. And "feeling good" should last past the
sex itself. And that means have safe sex so that you don't
have to later worry about getting pregnant or catching some
horrible disease.
Will I be a
good lover?
Don't worry about this question
at all. Being a good lover doesn't happen automatically and
immediately. You have to give it a little time. And of course
with the right partner, patience, time, care, and practice,
you will definitely become a great lover. Your first times,
for both you, will be fumbling, embarrassing and awkward,
but hopefully they'll be the start of great times ahead for
the rest of your lives.
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