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HOW
TO ASK SOMEONE OUT
Though
this might not be a problem with some but it might pose to
be a big problem for many. There is an easy way to do this
without it being tough on you or the other person. Follow
the following tips.
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Don't
just offer a generic invitation: 'Want to go out with
me sometime?' That makes it really hard for someone to
say no. Which you might think is a good thing--but it's
not. It sets you up for an evening with someone who doesn't
want to be there, who's kicking themselves for not having
figured out a way to say no nicely and who might have
actually been psyched to date you if only you'd gotten
to know them a little first without all the pressure.
Thus DO NOT presume that the other person wants to go
out with you. It might just be the other way around hence
don't create an awkward situation for you and of course
for the other person.
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Always
ask someone out for a specific thing. Make it easy on
yourself also by making the rendezvous in such a way that
you were going to do it anyways. Like inviting him/her
to your house warming party or B'day party or any other
party. Or else you can invite him/her to some get-together
or picnic. First of all, you won't be a nervous wreck
asking someone out this way. After all you could be asking
them to come along out of friendship. Second, they can
say yes, or they can say, 'Sorry, I already have plans,
without it being a whole issue. This way you will ensure
that you are not embarrassed and also make you know the
person a bit more.
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And
never ask more than once. If the person says no, they
said no. (Unless they made it clear that they genuinely
had a previous commitment and would have been otherwise
interested: 'Wow, I love watching Brad Pitt movie and
want to be first on your list the next time you get tickets.')
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