Eight Degrees of Marital Happiness
Many think marriage has only two extremes
total
happiness or total misery with nothing in between
I
beg to differ, marital happiness has 8 elements on a scale
If
you got all 8 of them, you have hit on the head of a nail
The
first and lowest degree of marital happiness is called Animal Love
Debauchers
and depraved enjoy no other happiness but this physical love
Animal
love is a degree higher than the happiness of the brutes
Brutes
who lived in caves and survived on hunted meat and fruits
The
second degree of marital happiness consists of compatibility in manners
Mutual
politeness between married people with animal love on the scanners
They
still may have disputes but the reconciliation door is kept open
Manner
will soften these disputes but civility would still be token
The
third degree of marital happiness consists in compatibility of Opinion
The
more couples think alike on all subjects the more solid is the union
Less
danger of squabbles & disputes if their opinions coincide
Contrary
opinions will create between them a continental divide
The
fourth degree of marital happiness is the compatibility of Taste
This
is perception of what is proper, beautiful, sublime in physical state
This
is very important as it also includes art, building & furniture
Gardening,
books of entertainment and any man-made structure
The
fifth degree of marital happiness is compatibility of sentiments
This
is the perception of what is right and wrong in the moral elements
This
is particularly important in marriage if the children are involved
Couples
will be more obstinate in their opinions; this won’t easily be resolved
The
sixth degree of marital happiness is compatibility in Understanding
This
forms an exalted source of happiness if not withstanding
This
includes equality of capacity to perceive and relish the truth
In
morals, politics, philosophy & religion to give matrimony a boost
The
seventh degree of marital happiness is compatibility of Tempers
This
excludes anger, resentment and peevishness in all matters
It
supposes the most perfect uniformity in the wills of the married people
Leading
them to just, benevolent and charitable actions, always congenial
All
degrees put together can not supply the want of compatibility of tempers
If
any suffering in the world can entitle one to the heaven’s laughters
It
would be to pass through life tied to a companion
Full
of anger, resentment, weak head and bad disposition.
The
eighth and highest degree of marital happiness is compatibility in religion
This
includes sameness of ideas of Allah’s attributes & perfection
With
wills and affections and actions mutually tending towards honor of the deity
And
advancement of the soul is heightened by the sameness in a mode of worship &
piety
The
happiness of matrimony is proportional to the degrees present on this scale
Some
have progression and some retrogression as time passes as you inhale
Due
to new situation, connection, force or conviction of superiority
Or
in sentiments, temper, taste, understanding or changes in priority
Marrying
for looks, money, connections or security is now more in fashion
To
stay married for a long time, to these eight degrees you must pay close
attention
And
you must marry with Maola’s raza mubarak
& blessings within our own religion
May
Allah bless our Maola with sehat and long life, and may we all live under his
protection
Abd-e-Syedna,
TUS – Shk. Husain Jamali, Anjuma-e-Burhani, Los Angeles, CA