Link of the Month: Childless Stepmoms Chat a message board for childless stepmoms and former childless stepmoms
Please contact us with any thoughts, ideas, concerns, resources, etc. This website is updated and added to regularly, so please bookmark this site and keep checking back for changes!
Message Boards:
Message boards are a wonderful resource for stepparents because it gives you the chance to talk about your feelings and issues with others who are in the same boat as you are. They can offer encouragement and advice as well as many stories. You can also read about others going through the same issues as you are and write to them. It is a great way to build friendships!
Childless Stepmoms Chat a message board for childless stepmoms and former childless stepmoms
The Spiritual Stepfamily
StepTogether Message Board
The Stepfamily Forum
Seasoned Stepmoms
Read about the origins of Stepmother's Day and celebrate it with your family on the Sunday following Mother's Day!
1. I will be part of the decision making process in my marriage and
family
at all times.
2. People outside the immediate family, including ex-spouses, in-laws, or
adult children, cannot make plans that affect my life without my
consent.
3. I will not be responsible for the welfare of children for whom I can
set
no limits.
4. I must be consulted about which children will live with us, when
they can
visit, and how long they will stay.
5. I will not be solely responsible for housework, chores will be
distributed fairly.
6. I will be consulted regarding all family financial matters.
7. Others may not violate my private space at home, nor take or use my
possessions without my permission.
8. I will never be treated as an "outsider" in my own home.
9. My spouse and stepchildren must treat me with respect.
10. OUR MARRIAGE IS OUR FIRST PRIORITY, AND WE WILL ADDRESS ALL ISSUES
TOGETHER.
The following links are not part of the Bill of Rights, but do go along with it. All stepparents have the right not to have to put up with people telling us that we "knew what you were getting into when you got married." That is a way of people trying to demean what we are experiencing. All stepparents have been told this, whether by our partners or people out in the world. We want to provide two resources to help stepparents think about how they will deal with this rotten and UNTRUE comment that we all hear.
NEW: Alternate Reality
Did You Know?
You Knew He Had Kids When You Married Him
What would be the best advice one stepparent could give to another when you find yourself in the situation where your stepkids won't respect you? Or if your spouse will not support you when it comes to his or her kids? One word. Disengage. What is disengaging? In essence, it is a way to protect yourself from being taken advantage of by the people living in your house. If you are tired of toys lying all around the house, tired of making sure that everyone gets done what they are supposed to get done, tired of being taken for granted, tired of many other things that result from being a stepparent you will find renewed energy and the answers to your problems if you disengage.
"I am so glad that I was able to read the article about disengaging! Once I was able to put it into practice in my family, things really began changing for the better! The things that would make my blood pressure raise through the roof don't bother me anymore. My stepdaughter now respects me and loves to spend time with me. My husband has stepped up to the plate and is being a parent to her, so that I don't have to take on responsibility that is not mine and be disrespected because of it. I am no longer an abused member of my own household!" --Daphne
If you are a frustrated stepparent then you are ready to read the article! Click here to read the disengaging essay. This reading cannot be recommended enough! For further reading, see how one stepmom successfully disengaged and changed her marriage for the better AND gained the respect of her stepdaughter by clicking here!
If you have read about disengaging and have decided that it what you need to do, we have a sample letter that you can copy and edit to give to your spouse.
Relationship Red Flags
Warning Signs that you could be dating a verbal abuser.
The Mystery of Loving an Abuser
Stop Family Violence
The Loser
Emotional Incest: a form of emotional abuse.
Verbal Abuse Message Boards from Verbal Abuse.Com
Take a Quiz to find out if you are being verbally abused by your spouse.
Take a Quiz to find out if you areverbally abusing your spouse.
Verbal Abuse Message Board
Prevent Domestic Abuse
Safety Planning
National Domestic Hotline
The first link describes what PAS looks like by giving common "symptoms" of PAS by the offending parent (the alienating parent). The second link is dedicated to stopping PAS and was made in honor of Dr. Rick Lohstroh who was killed by his son due to the mother's PAS.
*Symptoms of PAS
*Help Stop PAS
*Parental Alienation
*Hostile Aggressive Parenting
*PBS Decares War on Dads
*Warshak's Divorce Poison Website
*Gender Bias in Family Courts
*PAS Directory
*Parental Alienation Defense
*Up to Parents
*Overcoming PAS
*How to Handle PAS
*Family Wars
*PAS Links
*PAS Expert--will travel.
*Guide to PAS
*PAS Archive
*PAS Newsletter
*F.A.C.T. Info: PAS
*PAS Resources
*Fathers For Life
*PAS: An Analysis of Sixteen Selected Cases
*PAS UK Index
*Fathers are Parents, Too
*How to Detect PAS
*Shared Parenting Network
*Custody and PAS
Steps to Building Successful Stepfamilies
Authoritative Parenting
What Stepparents Have Given Up
Classic Complaints for Normal Stepfamilies
Things to discuss before you tie the knot and Sample Expectation List
Things I Wish We Would Have Talked About
What to Look for in a Potential Spouse
Letter to a fiance: Need to Disengage and the Disengaging Essay
Alternate Reality
Did You Know?
"You Knew He Had Kids When You Married Him"
Warning Signs that you could be dating a verbal abuser.
The Loser
Childless Stepmoms Chat a message board for childless stepmoms and former childless stepmoms
Simple tips to increase fertility *updated!
American Fertility Association
Resolve
Natural Health for Women
Baby Java
My Desire for Children One childless stepmom shares her pain.
Childless Not By Choice An online support group.
National Fertility Institution
Stepping Stones
Hannah's Prayer Ministries
The Internation Council on Infertility Information Dissemination, Inc.
Child of My Dreams
The Essential Resource in Obstetrics and Gynecology
| |||
Click here to try to win the award
Click here to try to win the award
 |
Blending Families Perfectly |
| |
Return to the top of page.
