Omaha Couples Choice
Formerly Friends Connection Omaha. All material is copyrighted. Any use without written permission is prohibited.

email us at: tieandtails@mindspring.com

Formerly Friends Connection Omaha, we are a swingers club in the Omaha area, home-based, non commercial for like-minded swinging couples. Our club now has over 200 couples - 6 years in existence. We invite interested new quality couples to join us. Thanks for visiting and please feel free to contact us by email directly at tieandtails@mindspring.com. Looking forward to talking with you.

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V. Frank Answers, Information and Advice on common topics/questions/requests
(looking for bi-females only, looking for swing partners, how singles get involved)

Couples: Come from all walks of life. Ages range from the low twenties to mid sixties. The average age is probably mid-thirties. Most couples are married, but not all. Read our ‘typical night scenario’ below.

We are a very friendly group of people. Personal appearance and personality characteristics of the group reflect society in general.

We’ve all been first-timers and know the anxiety level is high for the newcomer. Its difficult to communicate it in a web page, but you’ll feel right at home with us. Our lifestyle has been demonized in the press and is frowned upon by society in general. Your expression of interest indicates that you don’t agree with this hypocrisy and wish to escape the anti-sex bias exhibited by the rest of the country.

While celebrating our special relationships, we still follow the norms of civilized behavior and are never forceful, impolite or critical of each other. Since the percent of swingers in the population is low, it is in our interest to really support each other. And, we do. We gain a wonderful experience in sharing our interest with each other. Everyone is respectful and courteous.

What Happens At Parties?

Parties are held usually once per month. Couples share the hosting responsibilities and the parties are held in their home(s). Hotels are used on a periodic basis. Parties often feature a theme. Strictly optional to you, themes add a little fun to the party and help people mix. The Halloween party features costumes, for example. What follows in the next section is a typical evening’s activities for newcomers Jim and Jane.

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"Below is the story of Jim and Janes First Party"

Couples arrive between 8 and 10 p.m. on a Saturday evening. Some have called ahead to let us know that they may be running late. All have RSVPed several days ago so we could plan hors’ de houvres accordingly. Jim and Jane are brand new and very nervous. Even though they’ve met personally with the hosts at a local restaurant to discuss the parties and lifestyle, they realize they know no-one and will feel awkward. How should they act? What behavior will they see?

Even though the hosts have explained the courtesy and respect shown by others, Jane is particularly worried that she will be treated with disrespect and is certain that there are at least a few real “weirdoes or sex freaks” that are going to bother her. But, Jim offers her comfort and promises not to leave her by herself at anytime.

They arrive at the home and are greeted at the door by the hosts, who are very friendly and welcome them in. They’ve arrived at about 9:00 and several people are already there. Their first surprise occurs when they see that everyone in the place looks like they do - Mr. & Mrs. Middle America. They are given a tour of the home and shown where they can store their BYOB containers. Cups, ice and mixes are provided by the hosts. They are taken around and introduced to everyone in the place.

As people arrive through the evening, Jim and Jane are introduced to arriving members. Because its October, tonight’s theme is Halloween and the guests are regaled in everything imaginable. Some are dressed in full-length costumes, others don’t have on much at all! Theme clothing is always optional and many are dressed simply in street clothes. Members are friendly and Jim and Jane are soon trading stories about their kid’s latest fiasco with another two couples as they sip on drinks in the kitchen. Their second surprise comes when they see newly arriving couples greeting old friends warmly with hugs and kisses. This show of friendship wasn’t expected by Jim and Jane.

They’ve been at the party almost an hour now and nobody has made any sexual advances toward them! They've met a couple, John and Gail and have struck up a very good conversation with them. Jim and Jane think John and Gail are a lot like themselves.

Jane can see that some of the guests are getting a little ‘frisky’ with each other. It’s 10:30 now and Jerry makes the announcement that the costume judging will begin. Couples that came in costumes are gathered in the living room and after some good natured insults, oohs, and aahs, guests cast their vote for the favorite couple. The winners are given a fun adult prize for their efforts.

The party is pretty lively now, and a few couples drift off to one of the bedrooms that is open for all (known, of course, as the OPEN ROOM). Two couples go to another, private bedroom where the door can be closed and nobody will disturb them. Most of the couples, however, are still chatting and having typical party fun in the non-bedroom areas. With this bedroom activity starting, Jim and Jane start to feel a little anxiety again.

The hosts pick up on this and remind Jim and Jane that there is NO expectation from anyone that they participate in any of the bedroom activities. The bedrooms are there if they choose to use them. It’s midnight now and Jim and Jane have seen some of the couples leave the residence without ever having gone near the bedrooms. The truth is, swinging in the bedrooms at the party is suited to some and not others. Many of the couples come to meet new people and often exchange phone numbers and will meet another day.

Curiosity has gotten the best of Jim and Jane and they stroll toward the large open room where several couples are having some very adult fun. The furniture has been removed from the room and padding and sheets cover the floor. Since this room is open, they walk in and this is, of course, the real surprise of the evening. Yes, there are real people engaged in real sex. Some are in groups and some couples are doing their thing by themselves.

Jim and Jane decide not to join in tonight. However, they exchange phone numbers with John and Gail, the nice couple they met earlier. They watch the fun for a while and then go back and have a last drink and visit with others. They thank their hosts for the evening and leave for home. In the car they talk about their experience.

Screening and Rules

Our membership is fairly open, but we do screen new couples and not every couple is accepted. There are several reasons why this is so. In general, we accept couples who are clean, friendly, and agree to adhere to the rules of the club. We avoid people who are looking for a kick for one evening, are drug users, or anti-social types. Newcomers need to realize that this is not a commercial enterprise, but a club. A few couples in the club have volunteered to help do the screening. So, when you contact us at tieandtails@mindspring.com, it is unlikely that you will get a 24 hour response. Everyone who supplies the minimum information will be contacted.

Most members have been in the lifestyle for years and treat each other with a respect that exceeds normal social intercourse. The experienced members have been where the newcomers are and go out of their way to make beginners comfortable and feel a part of the group. We aren’t screening people in the expectation that we only want the “great lookers”. But, if we see nazi tattoos on the forehead, a belly popping out of a torn, unbuttoned shirt, grease marks on clothing, and empty spaces where front teeth should be, the couple can expect a “no thank you” letter.

Rules: Drugs are absolutely not permitted. We have a “one strike” rule. If a member is found with or using illegal drugs at our party, they are asked to leave immediately and are not asked back.

You must be 21 to join the club. You may be asked to supply documentation of your age if you look young. Nothing we do is illegal. Many mistakenly believe that consensual sex between unrelated adults in a private home must be illegal. It is not illegal. We are not a commercial establishment and there is nothing public about us. Nobody simply shows up and is let in to the home. Advance reservations by known club members are necessary for participation in a party.

First Contact: The couple wishing to discuss joining or wishing to learn more about Omaha Couples Choice (OCC) should to do the following: (of course, feel free to email us at tieandtails@mindspring.com with questions not covered in this document)

Email us (tieandtails@mindspring.com) with a phone number, your first names and instructions for contact. In this lifestyle, discretion, privacy and secrecy are important and we know you are worried about this. Everyone is. When we call we will ask for whomever you identify in your email message of contact instruction. If we reach someone else (a child perhaps) we will not leave a number. Your instructions should include dates and times when you may generally be reached. When we talk on the phone, we will arrange a meeting in a public place (restaurant, bar or ???) to meet you and discuss the club. Both man and woman will need to be present at this meeting. Singles: To this point we have not accepted singles unless they are known and attend/leave with sponsor member couples. However, if you look like Susan Anton or Mel Gibson, we’ll make an exception (a little humor, folks!)

Contacting Us

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Email us by selecting the envelope icon in the upper right hand corner area of this page or directly at tieandtails@mindspring.com. Please include contact information, including a phone number, as discussed in the previous section First Contact. We'll get the message either way. Thanks for visiting our site.

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Frank Information and Advice on common topics/questions

Topics Covered
1. I/we are only interested in meeting bi females
2. I’m a single male and would like to meet another single female to go to parties.. .
3. Are there any places for a single to go .. . How does a single get involved . . .?

The following narrative gives you some frank information about these three topics.

Re. #1 above - bi females

Many couples that write us are interested only in meeting another bi female for threesomes. They aren’t particularly interested in parties or another couple, even if there is a bi lady within that couple. We assume they want no contact with another male.

They typcially want us to arrange an email exchange or phone number exchange with these single bi ladies. Other forms of the request come from single females interested in bi females and ‘hubby will only join in if permitted’.

Yes, we do know of a few single bi ladies that will party with couples. However, we will only recommend known club couples. We generally recommend to new single girls, if they contact us via email/snail mail, that they come to a party (after a screening procedure). These ladies have more opportunities than you can imagine within our known group. The very few single ladies that do participate in the group do not generally like coming to parties unattached and will come with another couple. There they meet other couples and will get to know them and exchange numbers for later contact. For them, these parties are a great way to meet and screen without safety risk. Safety risk is a very large concern for them.

Single bi ladies willing to make contact with couples, or even swing clubs, are actually quite rare; we get maybe one every 6 weeks or so but fewer than half of those "take the next step" in club screening. Our best advice for those only interested in threesomes with a bi-female outside of the club route is to cruise the IRC chat channels or answer the ads that appear in swing magazines (found in adult book stores or now have a presense as internet "magazines"). Of course, the internet has hundreds of sites that claim to be useful for any contact you can imagine. Our member couples who seek single bi ladies outside of the club say its very tough. Minor success has been reported in AOL. We (Jerry & Diane) haven't used AOL and are simply reporting from some friends who have. Be prepared for lot of work and time spent. See other contact recommendations below.

Re. #2 above - single guys looking for singles girls to attend couples parties with.

Generally, these requests come from guys who are hopeful that we may know of singles ladies who are unattached. They hope that they can meet one or two and attend couples-only parties. The guys aren’t necessarily looking for romance, just a partner.

The only way that we will recommend a man to a woman is if we know both of them. The only way that we come to know a single guy is if he has been successful in developing a relationship with another couple and they bring him to a party. We have special rules for this and we will not help arrange contact or information exchange between single men and couples - that would occupy most of our time if we did - the number of requests we get for this is staggering. However, several couples do like to party in threesomes with single men and you can answer magazine ads or on the internet. See “General Contact Advice” section below.

Re. #3 above - Are there any places for a single to go .. . How does a single get involved . . .?

These requests are usually from single or married heterosexual men wanting to party in the swinging scene alone. There are many quality single guys out there but, frankly, we can only help them if they have already established a relationship with another club couple. Hopefully, you’ve read the earlier material and know why we say this. We do not help arrange meetings or information exchanges between single men and couples. Other information on this page suggests ways for single men to do this.

Having said that, it is also fair to say that, at this writing one party sponsor in the area does allow single men to attend her events. These are usually smaller parties and we do not have contact information to give you. Last we knew, this person was listed in several club listing areas on the internet and in some of the swinger magazines.

General Contact Advice

Travel to some of the large swinger conventions held around the country. We don’t have time to give you reviews of them or contact information - you will find out about them through magazines and your internet search engines. Some allow singles. Also, contact some of the larger swing clubs in large metropolitan areas that have dances and other social meeting arrangements, which allow singles, other than in a home environment. Chicago, Denver and Minneapolis have such clubs. We don’t have web sites or contact information on these clubs. However, you can find them via search engines. Lastly, Yahoo (www.yahoo.com) and Hotmail (www.hotmail.com) have the most extensive non commercial personals classifieds on the internet. There are alternative lifestyle sections there where you can place an ad. We know nothing of the prospects offered by commercial internet clubs/sites. Good luck. (back to contents) To Contact Information

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