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Professor J.L. Mcneill

English 111

July 12, 2001

The Dating Game

We have all been there. At some point in our lives we find ourselves involuntarily drawn in to the dating game. This game would be better known as a competition. It is a struggle for power and control of a relationship. Many people believe that the dating game is an innocent affair. They believe it is like dancing in many ways. The winner of the contest will lead the dance. More often than not women reign victorious. Through time, the innocent game becomes a shackle around a man’s ankle. The dating game is not innocent. Rather, it is a calculated procedure that women have created to achieve superiority in relationships.

The dating game begins with a look or perhaps a smile. Both parties seem interested in each other. This is when men unknowingly sign themselves up to participate in the competition. Now the stage is set for one party to take control. Someone must initiate contact. The man usually carries the burden of making the first move. This is a crucial time. Whoever makes contact will yield power to the other. A man asking a woman out on a date can be totally humiliated by her in the blink of an eye. However, the opposite is true as well. Women traditionally do not have to initiate contact, so the burden is not on their shoulders. Women know the moment they have been approached by a man that they are in control. Most women find total domination easy once this initial control has been established.

The next round is the phone call round. Most men use some sort of rule to determine the time lapse between initial contact and the first phone call. Calling too quickly will result in the man seeming desperate. Waiting too long will end up making the guy seem like a jerk. Women invariably do not concern themselves with this matter. They are in the position of initial domination at this point. If a man waits too long to call a woman he forfeits even more power. She most likely will comment on his delay the next time they meet. This is how women achieve their control over men. They begin at almost invisible levels, and they climax with eventual total control and nagging.

The next conflict arises when steady dating has begun. Tradition and chivalry state that men must pay for all expenses incurred during courting. Yet again, women are presented with the power and opportunity to create conflict. They may react any way they choose. They can be insulted by this outdated practice, or they may be insulted by the suggestion to share payment. Men today are caught in a time warp. Mothers raise their boys to be gentlemen. Boys grow up learning to open doors, pull out chairs, take coats, and to walk curbside. Many women of today take great offense to such kind gestures. Men must not attribute this offence to women’s liberation. They must recognize this as a clear stake for control over a budding relationship.

The final campaign women embark on is victory in arguments. Squabbling and petty arguments are a part of relationships. Women have a system for winning arguments, and they will win every one. From time to time men believe that they have won an argument. This could not be further from the truth. Women have a way of letting men believe they have won, all the while claiming victory in silence. Women have a final defense should a man ever drift close to winning an argument. Women will act as if a terrible wrong has been committed towards them. They tap in to a man’s primitive instincts to protect women. Men consistently concede defeat to women by apologizing. Women have mastered the craft of using guilt as a tool. Husbands are not the only victims of a woman’s guilt attacks. When women grow older they use it on their children as well.

The dating game is the most serious game a man will ever play. It is not an innocent or playful dance, as many believe. Most men don’t know it, but they are playing a game that will cost them control of their lives. The concession of power is so gradual that it is hardly noticeable. It starts with a look or perhaps a smile. It ends with a married couple. It ends with a smiling, faithful, victorious wife standing by her stoic, doting, victimized husband.

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