Putting the "Father" back in Fatherhood.
For Louisiana, For the United States,
For the World.
This world is often
moving too fast to
recognize the errors
we as humans make.
Sometimes we forget
to see those that have
been left out of simple
things. A child's birth-
day, a first tooth lost,
a great report card.
These are the things
some fathers miss.
I want to change that
and with the help of
Father's Day Organization
I hope to do that for
the fathers here in
Louisiana.



I am aiming to help those in need here in our great state
of Louisiana. I felt there was a big demand for someone
to stand up for this. I am not alone in this fight and
in believing what I believe. We are victims of the Louisiana
Court System and its prejudices against fathers having
custody of their children. Please stand up for yourselves
become active in this mission. Just remember, your children
would do it for you.



MISSION STATEMENT FathersDay2000 was put together to act as an
umbrella for all of the Fathers and Childrens
rights groups that are scattered throughout the
country. All of us need to unite in our efforts
to put the Fathers back into the lives of their children.

There are many groups, and there are many ideas
and suggestions as to what needs to be done. While
we all have different ideas, all of us need to
focus on what is best and what is necessary for
the best interest of our children.

Our main goal for Fathers Day 2000, is to bring
a much needed spotlight to the problems our youth
face today due to Fatherlessness in our country.
Take a moment and reflect on the importance of
Fathers Day 2000 and make an effort to take to
the streets of Washington DC.

The bottom line: It is time for everyone in this country to take a
stand and help put the Father back in Fatherhood.


That excerpt was taken from the Father's Day 2000 page.
Run by there and take a look at what the plan is.


My Dad" The Importance of Fathers to Children

"My Dad" How many of us feel pride and goosebumps
when we have heard those words spoken by our children.
It could be just "Dad" but children choose "my dad".
The "my" makes it possessive. It was then we fathers
realized that not only did our children belong to us
but that we belong to our children.

Divorce or separation can shatter this relationship
especially for fathers. The trauma that it inflicts
upon children can be even more devastating. Children
do not possess many of the coping mechanisms that
adults possess.. A leading psychiatrist has discussed
the problems his children had with his divorce and his
children were in the late twenties and early thirties
when the divorce occurred.

In divorce, father become expendable. Fathers also
have the task of supporting two households - their
ex-wives and children and their own. Working multiple
jobs does not leave much time for children. In contested
court proceedings, fathers are seldom granted custody.
In fact, in over 95% of these situations, custody is
awarded to the mother. Judge Judy states "we [society ]
have fooled them [men]into believing that the law
means what is says, when it promises that fathers and
mothers are treated equally in our courts. When men
seek custody of their children, courts make them jump
through hoops. Moms get the red carpet treatment." No one
can deny the importance of a mother but no one should
discount or minimize the importance of a father.

According to a recent column by Dr. Joyce Brothers,
studies have shown that children who grow up in homes
without fathers or fathers with little involvement
have lower IQs, poorer school performance and have
problems handling aggression. Conversely children's
father present at least 40% of the time, these children
have better thinking ability, increased empathy for
others and greater ability to rely on their own judgments.
Children inherit some of their biological characteristics
from their fathers, why should not they inherit some of
their social characteristics. The failure of lawmakers
and the courts to allow father to be fully participatory
in their children's lives results in children growing
into fragmented adults with many problems.

Why is this structure mutually exclusive? If a mother dies,
fathers raise the children. But it seems, in many cases,
if a mother refuses to cooperate, fathers are forced out
of the picture by mothers with the cooperation of government
institutions. Judge Judy says "They [Men] wind up in the
Land of Gender Bias, where they are systemically stripped
of their rights, often without the slightest idea of why
it is happening to them. Judges are not enforcing these
gender laws fairly, and few seem to care." You can add
the powers in the Assembly that also seem not to care.

Some women have stricken the ultimate blow against fathers
and their own children by denying fathers the right to
nurture and love their children. Fathers are important
role models to their children. Fathers are important as
representatives of the gender that boys grow into and
girls may marry and denial of father's rights will bring
turmoil into a child's life which will last
into adulthood.

So what do we do? Mothers who have the misfortune to be
noncustodial parents, have begun to be impacted by these
issues. In New York, we can move into the 21st century
and come to the conclusion that many experts have come to,
including Judge Judy, that shared parenting is the only way
to raise children. Shared parenting will liberate custodial
mothers by allowing them, if they choose, to continue
education or devote time to a career and thereby increase
in self esteem and recognition of their full human potential.

It is most important to allow a child to experience a
father's love. A father's love can never replace a mother's
love, it can only complement it and vice versa. We can do
no less for our children to make them feel totally loved by
both parents before children grow up and move into a
cold world. If you do not see your child today call them
and tell them you love them. Also regularly call your
State Assemblyperson and let them know that shared parent-
ing is the only way for our children.

By: Philip Avello, from Manhattan, NYC
Taken from the FRTC Site. Interesting reading isn't it??
Think about it...

Dear Ann Landers: A friend sent this to me, and I hope you will find room for it in your column. It was said by Judge Michael J. Haas of Cass County, Minn., to divorcing parents. This quote is from the official transcript of the divorce proceedings. -- K.W., Onalaska, Wis.

Dear K.W.: With so many marriages today ending up in divorce court, your contribution will help parents learn something truly valuable. Here are Judge Haas' words of wisdom:

"Your children have come into this world because of the two of you. Perhaps you two made lousy choices as to whom you decided to be the other parent. If so, that is your problem and your fault.

"No matter what you think of the other party -- or what your family thinks of the other party -- these children are one half of each of you.

"Remember that -- because every time you tell your child what an 'idiot' his father is, or what a 'fool' his mother is, or how bad the absent parent is, or what terrible things that person has done, you are telling the child that half of him is bad.

"That is an unforgivable thing to do to a child. That is not love. That is possession. If you do that to your children, you will destroy them as surely as if you had cut them into pieces, because that is what you are doing to their emotions.

"I sincerely hope that you do not do that to your children. Think more about your children, and less about yourselves. And make yours a selfless kind of love, not foolish or selfish, or your children will suffer."



Another excerpt from the wise fathers' on the
world wide web. This taken from the Father's Rights
To Custody Board.

1.) I will always love and espect my child for who for who they are and not who I want them to be .
2.) I will give my child space . To grow ,to dream, to succeed and even sometimes to fail.
3.) I will create a loving home enviroment and show my child that they are loved, whenever and however I can.
4.) I will, when disicpline is necessary , let my child know that I disapprove of what they do , not who they are .
5.)I will set limits for my child and help them to find security in the knowledge of what is expected of them.
6.) I will make time for my child and cherish our moments together .
7.) I will not burden my child with emotions and problems they are not eqipped to deal with , remebering that I am the Parent and they are the child . ,br> 8.) I will encourage my child to explore the world and all it's possibilities, guiding them tru its ways and taking pains to leave them careful but not fearful.
9.) I will take care of myself phsically and emotionally , so that I can be there when my child needs me.
10.) I will try to be the kind of person I want my child to grow to be... Loving, Fair-minded, moral, giving and hopeful.


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