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| This page is dedicated to all of the mothers who have just heard devastating news about their precious child within them. I myself know how unbealivable heartbreaking it is to recieve that news. To hear that your baby will not survive once he/she is born! Its unbearable. You think how can I go on? But let me reassure you, you will go on, Feeling the love of that precious child for the rest of your life! Some of you may contemplating on whether or not to terminate the pregnacy. If I seem as if I'm pushing toward keeping the baby, that is only because I KNOW that in doing so, you will get to see your precious child, and if you'd like spend time with him/her. I'm not here to tell you what to do. I'm just here to let you know, that keeping my baby was THE best thing I could've even done. I got to spend all that precious time with Abigail, that I wouldn't never got, if I woudl've decieded to terminate the pregnancy. I knew my daughter wasn't going to live, but the thought of me taking my daughters life from her, was unthinkable. Just because my daughter wasn't going to make it, I wasn't going to take the doctors advice and kill her myself! Living without her is so hard, But never living with her would've been even harder. I'm a believe In Jesus Christ, and I KNOW that he was there, and still is by my side the whole time, helping me through every single minute of those sorrowful times! If you would like to know more about our wonderful savoir please feel free to email me. I know with him you can get through this as his love is everlasting and so abundant. There are sooo many things you can do with your baby once he/she is born to help you create everlasting memories with them! Here is a list of things we did do, and some we did not: *You can give your baby his/her first bath *You can take some pictures *You can make a video tape with him/her *Depending on where you live, in accordance with the laws~you can bring your child home with you for a couple days *You can keep you baby with you overnight in the hospital to cuddle with *Depending on your baby's condition, You can nurse your baby *You can sing to your baby *You can kiss and hug your baby *You can have relatives visit your beautiful baby~ Like any proud mother, I was happy to show how beautiful she was! *You can take foot/hand molds of your child~I'm So Happy we did this! *You can have the hospital take foot/hand prints with ink onto paper There are also alot of things you can keep from your stay at the hospital with your baby to remember your baby by. Here again is a list: *A lock of hair *The hospital bracelets~all of them *The clothes they were dressed in *The blankets the were wrapped in *The crib card *The hat the hospital gives your baby to keep his/her head warm *Sometimes the hospital will give you special keepsakes to remember your baby by~Our did as they specialized in dealing with the deaths of babies. I know that this will probably be one of the most difficult thing you will ever have to plan. To make it a little easier here are some suggestions to help you through this rocky time: *You can have a celebration of life, instead of a wake... *Instead of placing your child in a casket(which, personally was really hard for me to see), you can place your child in a bassenet/crib. *You can create a collection of songs and put them onto cd/tape to play at the wake or whatever sort of rememberance ceremony you choose to have *You can create a rememberance board to be placed at the front of the room where the {wake} will be held. On Our rememberence boards(3), I put pictures and poems on each one. The pictures were of Abigail with all of the family who came to visit her in the hospital. And the poems were reflective of my feelings. And then I decorated the boards with papers with roses on them and small rose like decorations. Also we drapped light pink mesh around the boards. They were beautiful! *You can also have some poems read that reflect your feelings~if you don't think you will be able to do this, You could ask someone else that you will think will be able to. *You could have a ballon realease ceremony. *You can choose a design and a verse or poem for the memory cards~The funeral home usually offers these. *You can create the program for the wake *You can have a guestbook, to remember all of those who where there to say goodbye to that precious baby. *Also, one of the most important, you should ask if you could arrange some time to say goodbye alone with your sweet angel~One the best things We did during our time with out baby! *You could also have someone sing a song appropriate for the goodbye. Also you can do things to keep your child's memory alive after they have passed. Here are some suggestions: *You can create a memory book~filled with pictures, keepsakes(locks of hair, ect.), poems(you've written or found), or anything else you can think of. *You can create a memorial website, if your not knowledgeable, Yahoo pagebuilder, on geocities, is very easy to learn. If your still having problems, you can ALWAYS come to me for assistance:) *You can make a garden in memory of your child. *You can purchase a piece of jewerly to remember your child by (a locket with a picture of your child, is so precious)~You can also purchase a piece of jewlery that spilts into two halves and burry one with your child, and the other is for you to keep and wear. Please know that If you have any question, or would just like to talk, you can email me at any time. And I will glady answer any questions, or just be there to be a shoulder to cry on. I hope this has help in some way with This Journey that I believe no person should ever have to endure. Please know that I'm here for you, and so is our miraculous savior, Jesus Christ. |
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