Whether your child is cared for by a baby-sitter in your home, a family
day-care provider in her home or a number of people in a child-care
center, you should be able to expect certain things.
- Open communication. Providers should give you frequent and full
updates on your child’s progress and problems. They should welcome your
questions and ask you questions about how they can help your child. If
they let you know what is happening with your child during the day, you
can develop ways to deal with problems and to build on activities and
accomplishments of the day.
- Open access to their home or center. Parents must be welcome to drop
in any time, even without calling. Providers also should allow parents
to make a reasonable number of phone calls to check on their children’s
well-being, in case of illness or if there’s a special problem such as
separation anxiety. You and the provider should work out the best times
for such phone calls and determine how many calls are reasonable.
- Safety for your child. Providers should take all possible
precautions to keep children safe. This includes plugging light
sockets, putting away knives and other sharp objects, closing off
stairways and using only safe and well-maintained equipment, among
other basic safety measures. It also includes always using child-safety
seats and seat belts when transporting children in cars.
- Honesty and confidence. Providers shouldn’t make commitments that
they can’t or don’t intend to keep. They shouldn’t cover up problems or
accidents that occur. They shouldn’t expect parents to help them avoid
income taxes by slipping them money on the side. They also shouldn’t
gossip about your child or your family to friends or coworkers.
- Acceptance of parents’ wishes. Providers should abide by parents’
wishes on matters such as discipline, TV watching, food, adult smoking
and toilet training. If parents do not want their children spanked,
providers should not spank them. If parents don’t want anyone smoking
around their child, the provider needs to see that no one smokes in the
house when the child is present. If providers feel that they can’t
abide by parents’ wishes, they need to tell parents before agreeing to
care for the children and parents should look for other care.
- Advance notice of any changes. Since it is often very difficult to
find adequate care, providers should tell parents well in advance if
they are going to change their hours or prices or if they are going to
stop or limit the time of caring for a child. Parents need at least a
month or, better yet, six weeks’ notice if a provider is no longer
going to care for a child. Except in the case of an emergency, parents
should be given at least two weeks notice even if the provider won’t be
available for just one day.
- No interference in the child’s family or family problems. Providers
shouldn’t talk to children about their families’ problems, lifestyle or
values. Likewise, the provider should be careful not to take sides in
any family disputes such as custody battles. Providers should not try
to impose their religious or other beliefs on the children they care
for. This includes not taking children to religious services unless
asked to by the parents.
- No advice offered unless asked for and no judging of parenting
practices. Providers shouldn’t criticize or advise parents on child
rearing unless their advice is asked for by the parents. They shouldn’t
set themselves up as experts on parenting. If parents ask for advice,
providers should offer it in a noncritical way. Of course, if providers
see something that is seriously wrong with how parents are raising
their children, such as if they fear child abuse or see a child
apparently suffering from malnutrition, they should discuss the problem
with the parents and, if needed, contact legal authorities.
- Assurance that everyone in contact with the child is trustworthy and
properly trained and supervised. Providers must be responsible for
everyone who enters, visits and works at their home or center. This
includes screening custodial help, not admitting strangers to the home,
seeing that all transportation workers are properly trained ant that
all visitors, including friends or relatives of the provider, are
trustworthy and supervised and will not harm the child.
- No surprises. This means that your family day-care provider won’t
suddenly tell you that since she has taken a part-time job, her teenage
daughter will watch your child three afternoons a week or that your
child’s favorite teacher at the center just disappears without warning
or comment. Surprises are probably what parents fear the most from
their child-care providers.
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